Disclaimer: This is a personal post, and you may want to skip this if you are here for technical or functional posts.
I was right. I was certain that I was. The other person had made a couple of good points, and was adamant on a couple of them. However, I knew in my heart that I was on the path of the righteous.
There was no way I would step back or give in when I was correct. In fact I deserved an apology and that made me the aggrieved. That gave me more drive to fight back and ask for what is mine.
Like a crusader who has no regrets, I trod on this path. Bludgeoning any and everyone who stood before me. Until, I hit a wall. This wall was another person … just as correct as I was, just as bull headed as I was.
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A clash of egos
Now, I am no stranger to being firm and having my way … and I love a good debate. Hence, it was pretty easy to get into this big fight.
At the end, both the sides were injured, feeling dejected and had wasted a good time and resources. That was when it struck me.
A clash of egos is always a pyrrhic victory. You end up resenting. Period.
What’s another alternative?
As ridiculous it may sound, empathy is a great alternative. Put yourself in the shoes of the other and see the world.
If there is a solution, try to come up with one using this perspective. If there truly is no other alternatives and it indeed is a conflict of interests, perhaps it might make sense to keep egos aside and see what can be a win-win engagement.